May 17
A Gentle
Answer
Proverbs 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Daily Steps
Conflict often escalates when we react to anger with matching anger. This proverb provides the new believer with a simple, powerful strategy for maintaining peace in strained relationships: a gentle answer.
The peace in this discipline is found in its transformative power:
The Cause and Effect of Conflict: The verse clearly defines the predictable outcome of two types of speech. A "harsh word stirs up anger," guaranteeing escalation and the destruction of harmony. A "gentle answer" has the opposite effect: it "turns away wrath."
A Choice of Peace: The gentle answer is an active choice. It requires self-control, humility, and prioritizing relational peace over the desire to "win" the argument or express justified anger. It is a moment-by-moment decision to rely on the Holy Spirit rather than the flesh.
The Result is De-escalation: By offering gentleness in response to harshness, you introduce an unexpected element into the conflict. You interrupt the cycle of retaliation and create an opportunity for the other person's anger to dissipate, securing the possibility of peace.
Your relational peace is secured by the discipline of your tongue. When faced with harshness, choosing to respond with a gentle answer protects your inner peace and models the gracious character of Christ.
Reflective Question
Is there a current relationship where a past harsh word (either yours or theirs) has stirred up anger? How can you commit to responding with a deliberate gentle answer the next time that conflict arises, trusting God to de-escalate the situation?
Prayer
Heavenly Father, I confess my quickness to respond in kind when faced with anger. I pray for the discipline and self-control to obey Your Word. Give me the wisdom to offer a gentle answer that turns away wrath today. May my words be an instrument of peace and grace, securing harmony in my relationships. Amen.
